Happy Birthday to you!!!

Hello Everyone!!!! Today’s topic is one of the most important ones in my life, everything is second to Isis. However this is the absolute second, my amazing beautiful remarkable WIFE!!!! When this post is due she is closing in on her ___ B-Day, I value my life so I will not mention her age. I have only had the privilege of sharing very few years with her but I couldn’t be happier in having chosen such a wonderful life partner.

I could list the many reason of why I love her but I eventually have to stop writing and I don’t think you’d have enough time to read it all. Thus, I’ll just detail some information about her so you can get an idea as to all that she means to me. 

Of course the obvious 1^st thing about her is how dedicated and wonderful a mother she is to Isis. I get a kick out of all the times I stand back and watch her play with her. Watching Isis laugh hysterically when my wife is teaching her some random new game or just making funny faces at her. Not to mention the way she cares for her as far as medical appointments, feeding times and food preparations as well as the countless number of things that a baby requires from a parent. For all these things she does I know that even if I bought her a Mercedes for Mothers’ Day I would still fall short from what she deserves. Heck, after giving birth even a fleet of Mercedes wouldn’t be enough!!! In this sense I must say you’re the best Babe thanks for everything. 

Then there’s still the wife part. She is great at this as well. I truly must admit we have a better communication than most couples. Of course like all couples we have disagreements, debates and the occasional all out royal rumble!!!  However, no matter what the occurrence for the most part we effectively communicate our issues. After the major arguments we have been able to eventually talk about our issues and come to agreements as to not only what went wrong and why, but to also learn how we can avoid the argument in the future and what we expect from each other to avoid it. Granted most of the arguments arise from the fact I make idiotic choices such as playing XBOX for way too many hours, loudly cursing at the TV during the games, Uh Oh better remember this one Football season September 4, Oh Yeah!!!! That’s not even mentioning other just plain idiotic things that I think, as a man we are naturally wired to do. Hard to beat evolution sometimes that’s why God gave us women and I got to keep the best one!!! Therefore, everyone out there the best thing is for you to be clear about everything you think may be an issue for you and those that you may not even think will be a problem and TALK about it with your partner. DO NOT hold back your thoughts and DO NOT make ASSumptions, this I say mostly from experience unfortunately.  

Of course there are other wifely demands that I am more than happy with her contribution in my life and NO I’m not going into details about that!!!  My wife is an incredible specimen of a woman. Her Beauty is remarkable and I get to enjoy waking up to her every day of my life. Well granted sometimes she’s waking up while I’m just getting home from work but you get the point. Anyway the thing is I really enjoy just looking at her. I appreciate her smile, her eyes, her skin, her lips, her body; EVERYTHING about her is pleasing to my eyes. I love having a physical attraction to my wife and to truly desire wanting to hold her, kiss her and …….. Hey hold on that’s private. Sorry got caught up. Uhum, well what I mean to say is that I am truly blessed. I was able to find the perfect woman for me and even in the hardest of moments when she’s driving me crazy, in the way that only a person you truly love is capable of doing, I still know that no matter what, I am with the woman I love and I wouldn’t want my life any other way. 

 

THANK YOU FOR EVERYDAY YOU ARE WILLING TO SPEND WITH ME MY LOVE. I WILL ALWAYS BE GRATEFULL FOR ALL YOUR SACRIFICES, YOUR LOVE, YOUR SPIRIT AND THE ESSENCE OF WHO YOU ARE. 

I LOVE YOU      ;-)

Until next time. We are going on vacations, so I will see you on October 13.

Take care,

David 

Being a Stepdad

I’m back again!!!! Well today I decided I was going talk a little more about me. I figured for all the guys out there that are thinking; “This guy is probably some geeky guy nerdy guy not like a regular guy.” WRONG!!!!! I’ve been pretty much an athlete all my life. I’ve practiced pretty much all sports. I played Football in Jr. High School, Played Basketball since I about 9 as well as Swimming and Surfing. Though, I have to admit that there is a little bit of the nerd in me. I love to read books and if I could I would waste away playing Call of Duty on my XBOX. Regardless, my passion still lies on ridding my skateboard and surfing whenever I get the chance. Teaching my step son William to surf is something that gives me a sense of pride that I can’t explain. Seeing him take to the water and the drive to continue learning every time we go out is something I can’t describe. 

I mostly talk about my daughter here but I absolutely LOVE my step son. He’s an amazing man (18 years old is a man, though a long LONG way to go in life), at his age I was focused on many things but school was not really one of them. When I first started speaking to Sannia and getting to meet her one of the things that concerned me was when she said “I have a 17 Year old son”. First thing I thought to myself is “Oh boy I hope that kids under control ‘cause I don’t want to have to deal with straightening out a teenage rebel.” When I had the chance to meet him I was amazed and taken back by his level of maturity. His focus on the future and to an extent his innocence to a world that is so cruel and abusive. Every day that I am blessed to see, talk or just be around him gives me a hope for the future. To know that there has to be other kids that are like him. Kids, oops sorry MEN/Women like him are the key to our future. They are the ones that will be the leaders of tomorrow and will be carrying us when we are no longer able to lead them.  I am truly proud of him and will always see him as my own son.

For all of you out there that are also playing the role of step dad and are having difficulty with their step child remember this; You are not there biological parent. BUT, You are also not just a friend!!! Do not try to be their friend or parent instead focus on one simple word. RESPECT!!! It will take you a long way with them. Respect their thoughts and decisions. Talk to them and truly listen to them. You will eventually be their friend to the point that they will confide in you. But in order to reach that point you must respect them. Let them reach that point in their own time. Do not be demanding of them or bark out orders to them. This will lead them to see you as an authoritarian person and not a person that merits respect. Only a person they have to listen to because they are being made to. Which, a teenager will become problematic simply because teenagers are in general rebellious to this attitude by nature. 

Thus, this post is dedicated to William. Thank you, for giving me your respect, trust, time, confidence and LOVE. Keep pushing forward with your held high proud of the man you are and the one you will become. I will always be in your corner and be proud of you. Thank you for being such an incredible human being and for inspiring me very day. You are truly an exceptional person and I love you very much. 

Until next time,

David.